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May 15, 2008

3 Things About Fear You Should Consider

Filed under: tips — Tags: , , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 10:16 am

After posting about ways on how to deal with fear, let us look at some of the facts and myths. You may have heard people saying that fear helped them go through a particular situation. Is fear really a good thing? Let’s find out.

“Fear makes you stronger” – Fear arises from the existence of a perceived threat. In that particular situation, the adrenal glands secrete epinephrine (adrenaline) into the blood, causing an increase of oxygen and glucose to the brain and muscles. At the same time, it decreases the functionality of other bodily processes that are not directly related to the fight-or-flight response. The drawback is that it only lasts for a short time.and you feel a lot of stress afterwards.

“Fear allows you to judge better” – Although some people would claim that fear allows them to make better judgments, what actually happens is that your mind focuses only on the object or situation that you fear and gives you less options to choose from. In effect, it allows you to decide faster but the options that you missed may have been far more suitable than the one that you picked.

“Fear allows you to perform better” – It actually depends on the situation. Often times you will hear people say that their fear allowed them to react better to situations when fear was present. However, the reason for that is related to the fight-or-flight response (see above). This is not always the case. Since fear also hampers your judgment, decisions that could have helped you perform better during the situation may have been left out.

May 13, 2008

3 Steps in Conquering your Fear

Filed under: tips — Tags: , — patriciaholdenmd @ 5:35 am

My last post was about some of the most ridiculous fears that were observed from people. Although, most of us would think of them as funny, there are people who actually do experience them. So, how does one go around dealing with fear? First, we’ll have to define what fear is. Fear is an emotional response to something that we perceive as a threat. It’s a survival mechanism that triggers to a negative stimulus. It is often related to a bad experience from the past. With that said, let’s proceed with some steps on how to deal with a specific fear.

Identify – Although usually, the first step seems to be the hardest, for this one it’s pretty easy. Like any problem, the first step in finding a solution is to identify the problem and its causes. For example, ask yourself, “What is it that I fear and why?”

Understand the cause of your fear – Humans fear that which they don’t understand. For example: You are afraid of spiders. What is it about spiders that you fear? It’s bite? Do some research about spiders and you will find that not all spiders are deadly. Also, the deadly ones would only bite when threatened.

Face it – Look at pictures or imagine the situation that you fear. Make sure to maintain the image for as long as you can. Also, remember to breath properly. You will experience things like rapid breathing and heightened pulse rate. Focus on calming yourself. Afterwards put yourself in that situation or look at the actual object. Then do the same. Imagine the worst that could happen and conquer it. What are the chances of the worst happening, anyway?

April 29, 2008

Spots that get her excited

Filed under: tips — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 3:35 am

I mentioned some tips on how to use your hand for your man’s pleasure a few weeks ago. So to be fair with you guys, let me tell you some spots that could get us excited.

Erogenous spots, as we call it, are areas with nerve-endings and increase sensitivity. Lips, nipples, and thighs are among the commonly known spots. Although not for all women, try to find one where she likes it the most. Here are some that most guys pay less attention to:

Neck – Ever wonder why she sudddenly gasps or raises her shoulders to cover her neck when you touch it? The back of the neck is considered as one of the most sensitive parts of a woman’s body. To use it to your advantage, breathe down her neck, or kiss her there (move her hair aside, of course). Use your imagination. You’ll make her want you more.

Ears – Try to whisper something sweet in her ear and watch her react. Some women’s ears are actually sensitive to touch. For this one, your lips and tongue are key to arousing her. Use your lips to suck her earlobes, and your tongue to lick the edges of her ear.

Behind the knees – This area is highly sensitive and she may react differently depending on how sensitive she is. If she’s ticklish, don’t bother with this area. If she likes it though, start licking the area smoothly..but don’t overdo it.

Feet – If you feel comfortable with it, try giving her a foot massage…with your mouth, of course. A lot of women like having their toes sucked on. You may also lick her soles while gently massaging her feet. I know mine are…but before doing those things, make sure her feet are clean!

Hands – Ever wonder why people like holding hands? It’s not because of the custom. The hands are actually sensitive, too! Kiss her palm and play with her fingers. Lick her hands to excite her. You can be creative and use chocolate. Whatever works for you.

Take note that these spots were not meant to be stimulated individually. You can mix and match. Try kissing her neck while massaging her hands. Again, be creative!

April 25, 2008

Six Pregnancy Myths

Filed under: tips, Uncategorized — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 4:50 am

Looking for current news online, I encountered this particular article about improving the chances of whether a new mother will conceive a boy or a girl. According to the article, a high energy diet would boost the chances of having a boy while the opposite would most likely yield a girl. After reading through the entire thing, I’m still unsure whether to believe the findings of the survey or not, but unless they are able to explain the details of how it works, I wouldn’t agree to the research just yet.

While we’re on the topic of pregnancy, although there are clinical methods of knowing the gender of an unborn child (I had ultrasound myself), there are also popular myths on how to find out.

Heart Rate – If a baby’s heart rate is below 140 then it’s a boy. On the other hand, if the baby’s heart rate is 140 and above, then it’s a girl.
Belly Shape – If you’re carrying low then you’re having a boy, but if you’re carrying high then you’re having a girl.
Urine – If your urine is bright yellow then it’s a boy, if it is clear then it’s a girl.
Breast – If the right breast is bigger than the left then it’s a boy, otherwise it’s a girl.
Chinese Calendar – By matching your conceiving age and month of conception, you can figure out if it’s going to be a boy or a girl. Here’s a link to the chart.
Ring Test – Tie a ring on a piece of string. Hold the string so that the ring hangs down in front of your belly. Gently swing the string and take note of the motion. If the ring moves in a circular pattern, you are having a boy, but if it moves in a straight line, you are having a girl.

April 23, 2008

5 Things to Avoid in Las Vegas

Filed under: tips, travel — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 2:52 am

I’ve been to Las Vegas quite a few times with my husband. I haven’t had any real trouble so far and have always enjoyed my visits. However, it may not be the same for everyone. Here a few things to avoid while on a vacation in the city.

Driving – Traffic can get really bad in Las Vegas, especially the Strip. Instead of driving, try taking a walk or take a taxi. The monorail is also an alternative.

Losing all your money on gambling – In gambling, sometimes you win, often times you don’t. Don’t go to Las Vegas in the hopes of winning a lot of money in one of the casinos. Many people have tried and many have failed. My husband and I gamble just for fun. I suggest you do the same.

Drinking – Alright, drinking is fine but not too much that you’ll spending the next day in the hotel with a massive hangover. Also, getting drunk in Vegas would be bad in more ways than one – it could quickly lead you to the above situation (gambling).

The Heat – When I say “heat”, I’m not just talking about the scenes in Las Vegas. The city is in the desert and temperatures could easily reach 90 – 100 degrees during the summer. Bring a lot of water to avoid dehydration and avoid the afternoon sun.

The Wrong Crowd – Las Vegas is not called Sin City for nothing. Especially in the casinos, there are a lot of unlikable people that move around. People who smoke without any regard for other people, people who drink in public and often go loud when drunk, and scantily clad women are but a few of them. If you’re going to Las Vegas for a vacation, at least you should know what you’re getting in to.

April 18, 2008

Common beach-related injuries

Filed under: tips, travel — Tags: , , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 11:59 pm

With summer in full swing, I’m sure most of you are thinking of going to the beach for a vacation. It could be in Miami, French Polynesia, or even Bora Bora. Of course, there are unexpected events that can occur while traveling or even when at the destination itself. Here are some beach-related injuries and how to address or prevent them.

Kinetosis – It’s not beach-related but if don’t happen to live near a beach then you will surely have to travel. If you’re going to travel by commuting to your destination there’s a possibility that you may suffer from kinetosis or motion sickness. This happens when there is a disagreement between your perceived movement and the vestibular system’s sense of movement. You may feel dizzy, experience cold sweat, develop a headache, or worse, feel like vomiting (which would not help relieve motion sickness).

In case you run into the situation, let me give you some advice on what to do. One, if in a car or any other vehicle, try looking towards the horizon in front of the vehicle instead of the windows to your sides. Second is to take a nap, but be especially wary of passengers who might take your belongings. Of course prevention is still better than cure so try taking Dramamine or Bonine (you can purchase these over-the-counter) one hour before traveling.

DehydrationOf course, with the summer heat you’ll be sweating a lot. So try to replenish your body fluids with water every now and then – especially when you’re feeling dizzy or developing a headache. Those two mentioned could already be symptoms of dehydration, which could lead to unconsciousness and even death.

Sunburn – At the beach, try to stay under the shade as much as possible between 10AM to 2PM – the hottest part of the day. Overexposure to the sun could cause sunburn, especially if you do not apply sunblock to exposed areas of your skin. Try to avoid going into the water or make sure to reapply it afterwards. In case you do get sunburn, apply vinegar to sooth the pain. Pain-relievers or analgesics could also help. There is no immediate treatment for sunburn and it will heal in time.

CrampsI’m sure most of you who have tried swimming a few times would have already experienced having muscle cramps. Basically, a cramp is a painful, involuntary muscle contraction due to overexertion. This happening while swimming in deep water could be extremely dangerous. In case it does happen do not panic, immediately stop swimming, tread water, and relax to prevent further cramps from developing. Softly massage the cramped area then immediately move out of the water.

Eating potassium-rich foods could help prevent cramps from occurring so make sure to eat your potatoes. Other foods rich in potassium are avocados, bananas, and soybeans.

Jellyfish StingsJellyfishes are some of the creatures I fear when going into the water. When you are stung by one, focus on getting out of the water to get help. Isolate the infected part so as not to spread it on an another area. Rinse the infected part with seawater, not fresh water to prevent activating the nematocysts (jellyfish sting cells). Use forceps or protective gloves to remove the tentacles. Use pain relievers to control the pain and immediately seek medical help.

Make sure to remember some of these tips before heading out. Enjoy!

April 11, 2008

How to Use your Hand for your Man’s Pleasure

Filed under: tips — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 3:43 am


Most of the times we always rely on our hands to do the job, so why not use it to give our man pleasure. I have collected some techniques on how we could actually hike a man’s mojo by simply touching him. Here are some the techniques you can use.

  • Dig that Chest

Nothing more excites a man than a slow circling of your hand in his fine chest, mostly with a new manicured nails. What you can do is to circle you hand tracing his pecs. Spiral your nails towards the nipples then gently pinch it using your thumb and forefinger.

  • Tug the Pubic Hair

Begin by pulling some hair in his pubic using both hands gently. Between your middle and index finger give him a few tugs like grooming his hair. This move will interest him the most since the nerves of the penis runs through the groin area making him more aroused as you tug.

  • Ear Stimulator

Wet your middle finger using your saliva and slowly trace the outer part of his ear lobe. While you’re there give him a gentle pinch while giving it a sexy tug. The moist in his ear will surely give him the chills and the thrill. This is caused by sensitive aural organs. The reason behind pulling the ear lobe is to trigger the nerves in his ear that could actually send some signal to the testicles making him produce the testosterone, and you know what testosterone can do. Yup, it will rev up the erotic device.

  • Spine Thriller

Make him lie on his stomach and pull his legs apart. Using both hands, make a fist and zigzag your knuckles at the arc of his spine. Roll your pinkie and knuckles at the vertebrae from the below to the nape, once you reach the nape, and then slowly trace your nails going down to the spine. The use of the knuckles helps you apply pressure hitting the nerves in his spine. Remember, all the nerves of the body are attached to the nerves of the spinal column. So by doing so, you’re giving him pleasure all over his body increasing his sex drive more and more. Also, by giving a soft and hard rub gives an access to his deep and shallow nerves giving a mix sensation.

  • Thigh Expert

You can do this while he is sitting down or lying on his back, what you do is to reach and then slowly walk your middle and index finger from the knees to the crotch. Tease a little and stop before reaching the private part, and then with light trace of S going back to where you started. Doing so can send an alert straight to the climax area. This technique works because there is a nerve running straight from inner thighs to the groin. The S-technique adds some element of surprise.

These some of the few tricks that I can share with you, but I can recommend is to add a little spice to the romance by taking your man in a really romantic and exotic resort. It will surely help you and your man get in to the mood.

April 3, 2008

Things you should have known a Day before Getting Hitched

Filed under: tips — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 9:06 pm

Be an expert this very second to have a happy marriage. We can see married people getting divorce right and left, and that’s a bit scary for those who haven’t tied the knot just yet. Here are some tips or some skills that can help you keep your marriage on the go.

  • Limit yourself from always putting your partner first

Yes we do know getting married means we have to make sacrifices for one another. But do we really know to what point? Do we have to give up our dreams and desires just to satisfy the need of another? Getting married really does not remove your individuality. Once in a while put your desires first, like me, after I got married, I got busy attending to my husband’s needs and forgot about my needs. I became colder and angrier towards my husband for no reason at all. Then I realized, I was getting mad because I forgot who I am and what I want. So I grabbed my bag and booked a flight to Italy. I’ve been longing to go there since I was a teenager, and so I did. I had a great time by myself, and when I got back, everything changed. I was no longer an angry person. It felt like I was a different person, the person I used to be. So I suggest making it a point to have enough time on your own or go out with your friends without him, and also encourage your partner to do it as well. In that case you’ll both be happy.

  • Learn when to Make him number One

Sometimes we forgot the little annoying things we ignored before the marriage but when marriage steps in, here we are trying to bring up those annoying stuffs our partner do. Remember we didn’t marry the person just to change them. You have to learn to pick your battles, if you know you won’t win then why bother. It’ll just make everything worse and end up hurting each other. What you can do is to have someone else do the dirty work for you, like ask his/her buddies to comment on the bad habit that annoys you. That way you won’t get in to fight with him and who knows he/she might just change.

  • Occasionally Jump to Bed Mad

Going to bed without comforting and agreeing to one another is not a sin. Instead of just agreeing without even thinking which is right from wrong then that’ll surely cause a bigger argument in the future. Settling an argument just for the sake of not having a fight is bad enough. Giving space to one another after a fight can actually help, letting yourself cool down or sleeping it off makes you realize what happened, you’ll be able to talk better without yelling on the top of your lungs after the feud has passed. When you know that the argument is not going anywhere because you both are very furious, then step up and say you’re mad and just don’t wanna talk now. You have to accept your own anger and settle it first within yourself. This technique can make your relationship much tougher.

  • Groping should always Remain

Let’s be honest, after a while we forget how HOT we are for our partners. But as time goes by, we slowly exhaust all the passion we have for each other. Everything just becomes a routine, saying I love you, kissing goodbye, and holding hands. So try spicing up the relationship again by trying something different. Then you’ll find yourself getting the HOTS for one another back. If you feel like grabbing your man in a public place then go on.

April 1, 2008

Want to Marry a Millionaire?

Filed under: tips — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 3:16 pm

No need to join those reality TV shows just to get someone wealthy enough to treat you like a Queen.  If you are too lazy to come up with your own money, here are some pointers for fortune-hunters such as yourself. 

  1. Imbibe

      They say if you want to walk the walk then you’ve got to talk the talk.  Meaning you should know the world of business, like return of investment.  If you want to belong to the upper class then better work it girl.  Study how to be elegant and talk elegant, show them you have the brains and not just another pretty face.  Start it with you college textbooks. 

  1. Release

      Be the same specie as Mr. Big Spender, spend once in awhile.  Investing is to spend and gain at least two-fold.  Don’t let him see through you, try invest a little and gain BIG! 

  1. Spin

      If you want mix and mingle then better invest on yourself.  Subject yourself in a makeover — always get your hair done, pluck your eyebrows, get facial treatments, and have a gorgeous body. 

  1. Chill

      Don’t be obvious! Don’t jump the guy the moment he shows you the money.  You’re not cool enough to have the money if you’re too hot for it.  Try not dwell in money discussions all night, as if nothing is in your mind but to make him your personal automated machine. 

            Remember if you’re too smart a cookie to just dip in someone else’s milk better put yourself in go get gold condition.

March 30, 2008

How To Be A Self-Made Sun-Kissed Goddess

Filed under: fashion, tips, travel — Tags: , , — patriciaholdenmd @ 4:29 am

Okay, so you’ve got that amazing trip to the Cotton House, that lovely leopard-print one-piece (or that delightful coral-print number) and the gold-and-bronze accessories that come with it — but your skin’s as pale as a sunbeam-challenged creature of the night. (this is in no way a dis on the vampire industry, it’s just that a majority of people who steer clear from the sun tend to be paler)

There are tons of ways to get that lovely bronzed goddess tan, but most of them involve getting baked in the sun / tanning salon, or getting one of those expensive tan sprays.

Fortunately for us, there’s the cheaper alternative of getting a self-tanner to get our sun-baked-brown-goodness, without the UV damage. Plus, most of them are easily washed off, you know, so you won’t stand out at the latest vampire union meeting.

Here’s a review of some of the top self-tanners for that healthy bronzed goodness! Remember, before going ga-ga over these products, look over the labels if you’re allergic to any of the ingredients, plus, if you’re not too sure about the desired effect, apply a small amount (lest you want to be a ganguro girl ;p ) on your arm to gauge the result and the amount of product you’ll need. Also, these products are best applied on clean, dry skin, to improve their efficacy and staying power.

Model Co Bronze Airbrush Face / Beauty Fix Airbrush Face – (my favorite!) Seven words. A little will go a long way. This’ll make you an instant chocolate princess! The cool thing though is that it washes off easy, and keeps your makeup on. It also has a nice glisten finish.

Lancôme Flash Bronzer for the Face / Flash Bronzer Shimmering Instant Tan BodyThese products give out instantaneous tint / shimmering effects for the skin, plus, they smell like tropical flowers, evoking that “island fresh” feeling.

The Body Collection Fabulous Fake Tan Tanning Gel – This one spreads easily and dries quick as well, leaving you with a sun-kissed glow within an hour of application. Perfect for when you’re just prepping for that afternoon swim over brunch! It also smells like coconut, so try not taste your bronze skin!

Shiseido Daily Bronze Moisturizing Emulsion – Not only will you get that delicious golden chocolate coat over your skin, it’ll be moisturized as well! Which saves up space when you’re packing for the beach, instead of carrying a separate bottle of moisturizer.

Clarins Self Tanning Instant Gel – A little too … messy for my taste, though it leaves a nice coffee smell which supplements the brown-ish blush you’ll be sporting after applying it.

Hit up your local beauty store if you’d like to give self-tanning a try. They’ll most probably be carrying these products, giving you the choice of which one to try. While there, look for some pale pink water resistant lipstick to complement your look. Throw in some shimmery orange eyeshadow, a dash of chocolate and lots of mascara and you’ll be the perfect bronzed goddess in the beach!

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